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October 14, 2015

On Being Married to a Time Traveller



Today, on our 11th wedding anniversary, I have a special treat for you: a deeply beautiful - and incredibly touching - guest post written by my beloved husband, Tony, who wanted to share some of his poetically eloquent thoughts on what it's like to be married to a vintage lover with the blogging world.



I met my wife on the first day of spring over a decade ago. It’s the only day of the year in which day and night are equal in length. Just as she, I would later come to find out, lives equally in the present and in the past.

Before meeting in person (we met online) Jessica described her hourglass figure as akin to that of a lady of other times. A ‘Renaissance painting’, I believe, was the term that she used. Though she was referring to her curvaceous body, her description betrayed a certain nostalgia. A wistful affection for the past that I'm no stranger to myself.

Her brand of nostalgia is a special kind however. Her longing is not just for happy times lived a decade or two ago when everything was a possibility and the world a wondrous place in the eyes of our younger selves.  No. Her nostalgia is for times never lived firsthand and long gone. Times forgotten by most. But not by my wife.

The past was after all the present for so many now forgotten souls. Their hopes and dreams, their fears, their daily struggles and joys, their accomplishments and failures, their style and mannerisms, their recipes. All overlooked by most of society as quaint or even unimportant details these days. We have to live our own present and focus on the future. No time to look back; there are bills to pay, apps to run on glowing screens.

Time is a gentle wind, but it never rests. And we are all but leaves carried away, flying in the air, stumbling, touching the ground, hitting a tree or two, and then soaring, before falling again. Merely passengers sharing the same sky, occasionally flying into each other. "Avec le temps, va, tout s’en va."

Those forgotten, expired leaves in the wind deeply matter to Jessica. She takes stock of their passing like she would do for friend who left too soon, without a chance to exchange a few more tender words.

My wife is not normal. Not even close. Everything about her is shaped by her passion for the past. Her taste in movies and music, her vocabulary, her clothing, her class, and her graceful elegance. Each aspect of her reminds you of a lady living in another time.


"Are you an actress in a play?", we often hear from inquiring minds. Her reply, "No, I just really love, and therefore choose to wear, vintage style all the time", surprises people. Some can hardly contain their suspicion for a person who has violated the social norm by simply showing up and being herself. A different self from what is expected. Others root for her, clearly wishing they had the same courage. Because courage is what it takes to break rank so conspicuously.

To those who think she is weird I say that they are right. She is weird to the minds of those who never allowed themselves to color outside the lines. To the rest of us, she is wonderful, imaginative, unique, herself, original, colorful. She's a 1940s feather hat in a hat-less world; a poodle skirt in a crowd of leggings. Seeing her amongst 21st century society is like a sudden rain shower in August that penetrates your clothes, to refresh and surprise you as it kisses your skin.

Being married to a time traveller is an adventure at the edge of multiple ages. Every new place that we visit is examined through the lens of the past that led to its current state. I tag along as I see her approaching this past with the respect of someone who is happily willing to listen without interrupting.

To some she is embodies a unique style no longer in vogue. Other see her as an eccentric. Less understanding eyes might go as far as considering her an attention seeker. That's not what Jess is about in the slightest. The moon doesn’t put on a show each night to be seen and admired. She does so because that’s who she is.

Make no mistake. Much like fictional time travellers, Jess cannot stay in the past indefinitely and has no desire to actually live indefinitely - where such possible - in the decades she hold so dear. Her chronic medical conditions alone wouldn’t have allowed her to survive even a few short decades ago. Her trips to days long gone then must be brief.

With each one she brings the most worthwhile elements of the past into the present. Elements worth preserving and celebrating. Never to be forgotten again. Not if she can help it at least.

So she goes on, preserving the past, surviving the present, taking romantic dates in nostalgic lands and times.

126 comments:

  1. This post was so heartfelt and touching! Thank you so much:)
    -Madison
    www.1minniemuse.blogspot.com

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  2. so sweet! Jessica, you are an amazing person! Thanks for always being so nice to me!

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    1. Bless your lovely heart, dear Sara. You are so very welcome. Thank you deeply for always being such a caring, supportive friend to me as well.

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  3. Dearest Jessica, first let me day CONGRATS!!! Now I have to tell you that this is beautiful. He sees you Jessica and now we can see you through his eyes. Although as I was reading I felt that I knew you in this way as well just not as deeply. He has a wonderful way with words, just as you do. I wish you both a very Happy Anniversary. Love, Beverly PS Eric and I just had our 20th Anniversary. See in our day and time, love still last.

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    1. That is such an awesome way to look at things, my darling friend. Yes!!! Even in this divorce filled day and age, some couples - thank the universe! - are still able to not only make it last, but to have marriage become more and more enjoyable for them as the years roll on. Huge congrats to you and Eric on 20 fantastic years together!

      Huge hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  4. What a beautiful post about a special woman! Happy Anniversary!!! <3

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  5. How utterly and enchantingly lovely. Happiest of anniversaries to you both x

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  6. I love this Jessica! So beautiful Tony! Happy Anniversary!! <3

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    1. Thank you very much, lovely Lorie - from both of us!

      Big hugs & happy October wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  7. Oh no, I wrote a comment but Google randomly logged me out so now I don't know if it got through!! I was trying to say that this post is perfect and beautifully captures what we all love about you, Jessica! Well done, Tony and huge happy wishes for your anniversary to you both. If my other comment did get through too do choose which you post! Have a wonderful day together xx

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    1. Oh noz!!! I hate it when that happens (this is the only comment I'm seeing from you, honey). Grrr!!! Why must the internet have a mind of its own sometimes?!

      Thank you very much for your immensely lovely comment and anniversary wishes, my treasured friend. I (we) appreciate it a great deal and are being floored by all the sweetness that is coming our way here today.

      Huge hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  8. Awww! A perfectly romantic tribute to your utterly beautiful wife. Happy Anniversary to you both!

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    1. Thank you deeply, dear Debra. It has been an amazing eleven years filled with so many changes and experiences of all sorts. I can only imagine what the next eleven - and beyond - hold in store for us. Good things, I truly hope! :)

      Many hugs & joyful October wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  9. OH, this is so lovely and loving!
    This post made me laugh and cry at the same time .
    My man and I just had a talk about my Vintage Style/Identety a couple of weeks ago, when I scared people on the street by wearing a fancey hat during the day ... and I heard similar loving words from my man ... I am so thankful that my man supports me in being differnet and that he absolutely adores my extreme style as much as my leggins-and-chunky-sweater-look I wear sometimes at home ...
    'She's a 1940s feather hat in a hat-less world; a poodle skirt in a crowd of leggings.' - Aaaaaaw, I love these words!

    Hugs to you both!
    XX

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    1. I swear, that was my reaction when Tony read it to me for the first time, too. He surprised me with this guest post and it is truly one of the loveliest - and most accurate - things anyone has ever said about me.

      It's awesome that your chap supports your love of vintage and totally "gets" you as well. Thank goodness for supportive partners like ours. I wish you guys a lifetime of happiness together as well and hope we're all able to meet one day, be it in Germany or Canada.

      Giant hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  10. What a beautiful, touching tribute to Jessica! You must be pretty special yourself to have captured her heart!

    Happy Anniversary Tony and Jessica! May you continue to be happy together for many years to come!

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    1. Thank you deeply, dear Jennifer. He truly is an amazing, caring, beautiful soul and not a day goes by that I don't count my lucky stars that the universe brought us together.

      Huge hugs & happy October wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  11. OMG, that's SO beautiful!! It's so rare for a fella to be able to show such honesty of feeling, such poetry, with the rest of the world - you're a very lucky gal, Jessica (of which I'm quite sure you're aware), and he's a very lucky guy. 'Scuse me, I got something in my eye, here, need a tissue... ;)

    Does Tony have a brother?? *lol*

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    1. It really is and I am definitely one immensely fortunate woman. Certainly the Latin blood that flows through his Italian veins helps him to be such a romantic, sensitive man and a brilliant writer.

      No, I'm sorry, his only sibling is a sister. He parents had kids late in life and it's just the two of them. I could inquire as to single cousins, if you're interested. :D

      Many thanks & happiest of mid-October wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  12. This is so special and sweet! A true honor pleasure to read! Happy anniversary to you both!!! :)

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    1. Thank you ever so much, sweet Esther - from both of us. It is beyond making Tony's day to read the plethora of beautiful comments that are pouring in here today.

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  13. Very, very sweet! Many blessings and Happy Anniversary!

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    1. Thank you very much, Kelly, from both Tony and I.

      Have a marvelous October!
      ♥ Jessica

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  14. What a lovely and touching post. Happy Anniversary to you both!

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    1. Many warm, heartfelt thanks from both of us, dear Sue.

      Wishing you a stellar October!
      ♥ Jessica

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  15. Exceptionally beautiful and poetic. I would expect nothing less from your husband. Happy Anniversary. ❤️

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    1. Thank you so very much, dear Christina. He really is a gifted writer, isn't he? I hope that one day he'll pen a novel or book of poetry (he's written two books to date, but both are IT related and not full of lyrical prose like this elegant post).

      Many hugs & joyful mid-October wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  16. Jessica...you are a lucky woman!! Your wonderful husband sees you and obviously love you deeply.

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    1. He truly does and I most certainly am. No one in my whole life has ever seen or "got" me the way that Tony does and I count my lucky stars everyday that I am married to this gem of a man.

      Tons of hugs and sincere thanks for your beautiful comment,
      ♥ Jessica

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  17. How nice of your husband to honor you like this! =)
    Laurie

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  18. You're husband's post is so beautiful!! I understood everything he said of you & none of it struck me as odd in the least. My family & friends think me bizarre because I sometimes view antique finds as if they are living things. I also visit historical locales with the expectation that someone who occupied it in the past may contact me. Sadly it's never happened. Keep doing what you do best which is keeping the past alive on a most fashionable lovely to learn about manner!!

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    1. You're not alone there at all, dear Suzanne. I wrote about that very topic back in 2011 (http://www.chronicallyvintage.com/2011/05/lives-of-vintage-items-before-they.html) and will always feel a special kinship with old items of all sorts. We're on the same wavelength, if that makes sense.

      Thank you so much for your truly beautiful comment and for "getting me", too. You're a dear, fantastic lady!

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  19. What a lovely and thoughtful post! "The moon doesn’t put on a show each night to be seen and admired". That is just so eloquent, and the love that you two share for each other is just beautiful. Cheers x

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    1. Isn't it though? I had chills running down my spine the first time Tony read his post to me (which he entirely surprised me with, the sweet dear). He is such a gifted, poetic writer.

      Big hugs & many thanks for your absolutely lovely comment,
      ♥ Jessica

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  20. wow, so beautifully written! So Touching! :) Congratulations on 11 years!!!! xoxo

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    1. Thank you very much, lovely Laura. Isn't it hauntingly beautiful. I've been telling Tony for as long as I've know him that he should pen a book of poetry and/or a novel (or ten). He's a gifted writer and has written two IT related books, but his work leaves him little time for more eloquent writing like this and I am deeply touched that he devoted some of those spare moments to this profoundly beautiful entry.

      Big hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  21. This is so sweet! It really touches me! You can be proud of your husband!

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    1. Thank you deeply, dear Anthea. I truly am. He is a wise, caring, creative, inspiring, beautiful soul with a great deal humility and more sweetness than all the candy in the world combined. I am beyond blessed to be married to this special man.

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  22. Awww! So romantic! :D Happy Anniversary! :)

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    1. Thank you very much, my sweet friend! It truly is - my beautiful Italian writer really let his poetic side shine through here and I am so honoured by this post. It gives me goosebumps each time I (re)read it.

      Huge hugs & happy mid-October wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  23. Absolutely beautiful and such a perfect tribute to a lady that is so dear and unique. Wishing you both a wonderful anniversary. You both are very special and I'm happy you found each other on that spring day. xoxo

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    1. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts, sweet Georgianna. You have always been such a dear friend to both of us and we cherish you, your support, and the beautiful relationship we all share.

      Giant hugs from Penticton,
      ♥ Jessica

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  24. I have not commented for a while, but have been trying to catch up on my reading, and your blog in particular. This post. This post! It is, what any of us who have a deep love and respect for history and the past, would hope our spouses would describe us. What a blessing of a husband, and I know you're a blessing to him, as well. Your blog is that fresh, unexpected rain shower, too, and we are all blessed to get to know you here. Praying you have many more splendid anniversaries, and that you will be gracious enough to continue to share your lives with us, too.
    Much love from Tennessee,
    Sarah

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    1. Dearest Sarah, what a heartfelt, incredible lovely comment. I'm touched deeply by it and sincerely appreciate it your immensely sweet words. It is a joy and blessing to interact with you here as well (and on your own splendid blog, too).

      Huge thanks & equally big hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  25. Happy anniversary and many years! What a beautiful tribute and reflection from the person who knows you best! I love that he is so in tune with your interests and loves you all the more for living outside the lines, so to speak. Best wishes to you both!!

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    1. Thank you so very much, sweet Juliana! I truly appreciate your beautiful comment and kind anniversary wishes for both of us.

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  26. What a sweet and moving tribute! Your husband really does have the soul of a poet, doesn't he? Happy anniversary, and many years to come.

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    1. Massively so and I love that my blog gave him an opportunity to let that really shine. He writes all the time, for his blogs, for work, and for the two tech books he's written, but this tremendously elegant side of his voice doesn't get to come out all that often. I hope that as time goes on, it can more and more so, even if it's just for his own personal writing enjoyment.

      Big hugs & happy Friday wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  27. Now that was the most romantic,beautiful admiration for one's wife I have ever read! I think I teared up a bit. Thank you for sharing your love with the world. Happy Anniversary!!!! <3 :)

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    1. Thank you deeply, dear Samantha. I swear, I shed tears the first time he read it to me as well, and still get chills with each re-reading.

      Huge hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  28. Happy 11 years to you both! What a sweet, sweet letter of tribute to you! :) Good thing you both found each other--it's a good story of past meets future, considering you met online!

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    1. Isn't it though? We like to say that it was love at first email. :)

      Thank you for your great comment, dear Rachel. I hope that you and your own honey are having a beautiful October.

      Big hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  29. AWWWW! *SWOON!* Happiest of Anniversaries, dear darling Jessica ... and a most poetic and romantic, Tony. Here's to living "Happily ever after!"

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    1. That's such a beautiful wish, sweet Franny. Thank you through and through from both of us.

      Huge hugs!
      ♥ Jessica

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  30. He's a keeper AND a Peach! You two are lucky to have found each other. I wish you many more joy filled years together.

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    1. He truly is and that we are. It still floors me sometimes that we found one another online (especially since we were half a world away from each other at the time) and that I knew instantly that he was "the one" for me. It's been a blessing of the highest magnitude to be married to this amazing man for eleven years and I can hardly wait for many more together to come.

      Big hugs & sincere thanks from both of us,
      ♥ Jessica

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  31. Congrats! And this is beautiful! <3

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    1. Thank you so much, sweet Lisa.

      Have a marvelous mid-October weekend!
      ♥ Jessica

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  32. And a hearty congratulations to the both of you!!!!!!!
    While reading this, I'm serious, I couldn't help but tear up. How incredibly sweet and selfless this lovely work is. You are both immensely blessed, wonderful and surprising people. Your creative vision, words written and beautiful displays of true love is such a thing to behold.
    How incredible to find someone (and have them find you) and to both be so happy to be yourselves

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    1. Sweet Abigail, it means the world to me that you see us so clearly and that you appreciate - for you posses one yourself - what it is like to have a poet's soul.

      Many hugs & the sincerest of thanks always,
      ♥ Jessica

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  33. What a poetic hubby you have! I loved it sweetie. Happy Anniversary!

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    1. Thank you so much, darling Daffny. It's just amazing - as I'm sure you can relate yourself - how quickly these eleven years have flown by. Blink twice and I'll be posting about our 20th anniversary, I'm sure!

      Tons of hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  34. This is the sweetest thing I've read in ages. Tony is a gem. <3. Happy anniversary, lovely friend! Here's to eleven (and many others) more!

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    1. Thank you so very much, dear Rach. I get genuinely excited thinking about the next 11 years (and beyond) and what they'll hold in store for us. This is such a great time (our 30s) in our lives and hopefully it will be a really life changing - in a good way! - period of time for us.

      Scores of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  35. This is beautiful. I love your sense of style, and your commitment to be true to yourself and your values.I understand the odd looks in public. I dress vintage inspired every day, and my husband dresses generally conservatively. We do get odd looks, and the occasional "what are you dressed up for" questions.
    I also just realised we were both the same age when we got married (20). A big congratulations on your wedding anniversary, and finding a man who loves you deeply for who you are

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    1. Thank you sweetly, dear Kaitlyn. I love that we were married at the same age. While not epicly young, it still surprises many folks these days, I find, when I say that point - as does the fact that our marriage is still going strong. I've noticed that there's this real mindset in the public's eye with couples that tie the knot young in that it's perceived that their union won't last. I get that, and sometimes such is really the case, but I also think that on the flip side, those who marry at an early age are especially fortunate because they get to grow both as individuals and together for years, or even decades in some cases, longer than many others out there and often that is a wholly positive thing (I know it has been for Tony and I).

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  36. How beautifully written post about you, Jessica. Way to go, Tony!!
    You two belong together, lovely couple <3 Happy anniversary :)

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    1. Thank you so very much, my dear friend. I couldn't agree more and will forever count my lucky stars that in the midst of billions of people, we found one another online back in 2004 (which, interestingly, happened less than half a year after I got my first computer ever).

      Big hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  37. What a beautiful piece, Tony!

    I wish you both many happy time travels in future.

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    1. Thank you so very much, lovely Min. That is a beautiful wish and it means a lot to both of us.

      Many hugs & joyful weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  38. jess and tony!!! congratulations and all my best wishes to your anniversary!!!!
    you´r such a lovely, wonderful couple! love that pic of you both - it radiates happiness! that post, dear tony, is so heartwarming - i´m totally moved!!!!!
    i use to think that if we not understand the past we can not design a good future!!! all the people captured in daily commons and consumerism are in a kind of "stand by" modus for me - we have to look up, around and back for finding the right way forwards........
    big hugs for both of you!!!!!
    <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

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    1. Thank you deeply, Beate. That is such a glowingly lovely comment and wish for us. This post really does radiate happiness. What a fantastic way to look at it, my wise friend.

      Huge hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  39. Aww, this is so gorgeous that he wrote such lovely things about you and that he's taken the time to want to be involved in your blog and guest write a post! I feel like a lot of bloggers who are married or in long term relationships have partners who help out quite a bit behind the scenes but it's so lovely to see you shine some light on him and to have him actively be a part of your blog in a public way. :) x

    jessica - littlehenrylee.com

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    1. Yes, massively so!!! I feel that way, too, and love that it so much when Tony is able to be the star of the show, so to speak, here from time-to-time (really, any time he wants - he's just so busy, as most of us these days, to guest post here very often). Thank you for raising that great point and for your absolutely lovely comment.

      Oodles of hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  40. Oh, this is just so beautiful! What an absolutely gorgeous post for your anniversary. I adored the line 'The moon doesn’t put on a show each night to be seen and admired. She does so because that’s who she is.' This describes so many vintage people I know. They don't do it to get attention, far from it, they do it because it's who they are.
    Happy anniversary!
    xxx

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    1. Isn't it hauntingly beautiful? Tony has the most amazing, inspiring ability to see thing as they are and to then put them into mind-blowingly elegant words. This whole sweet, touching entry is a work of art that shows his true colours so marvelously.

      Huge hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  41. Dearest Jessica, your husband has such a lovely and poetic way of describing you, and it is obvious that he loves you and appreciates you for who you are! I wanted to thank you, Jessica, for being you! Not many people violate the fashion code of today, and I admire your for doing so. Every time I am on the bus and I see women wearing such low cut tops and those jeans with tears and holes in them, I shudder. You are such a lovely person and I love your blog and photos. Thank you so much for sharing this.

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    1. That is such a sweet, wonderfully nice comment, dear Linda. Thank you so much! I appreciate your support of my blog, my off-the-beaten-path fashion sense, and everything that I do online to no end. You're a caring, beautiful soul and I'm so happy that our paths have crossed.

      Tons of hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  42. My dear Jessica,
    first of all wishes for your wedding anniversary, then ... I read here, what he wrote Tony, I was moved .. Speaking of you, he expressed concern that the concepts of our time, so frenetic, always running after time ... and why? You recover and heal precious treasures, the past does not deserve to be thrown away or forgotten. The past can teach us a lot .. And then this is so romantic gesture by your husband, he did a very delicate thing writing this post ..
    And then I made a discovery, you met the day when spring begins, this is a magic date ... I have found my Marco exactly 21 March 2004, after which we met by accident three months before (the winter solstice) and then lost. Since that day we are always together!
    This is destiny, this is life, this is love!

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  43. A very Happy Anniversary, Jessica! That was beautifully and eloquently written, Tony. A poodle skirt in a sea of lululemons, indeed! You are obviously a peach, and I'm not just saying that cause you're from the Okanagan. ;)

    Loving and long-lasting relationships always make me feel good about the world again. 34 years this month for us. Here's to many more for you both. <3

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    1. Don't they though? It seems like long standing relationships are the rarity, not the norm, these days and I have the deepest respect and admiration for those who have made it last throughout the years. It's awesome that you guys are coming up on three joyful years together. I wish you countless more to come!


      Big hugs from Penticton,
      ♥ Jessica

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    2. I kinda wish it was only 3 years, Jessica ... cause that would make me a whole lot younger. ;)

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    3. My sincere apologies. Somehow - long, long week - I misread your message as saying 34 months. I truly apologize about that and appreciate you pointing out my mistake. I am in awe of your 34 years together. That is beyond amazing!

      Big hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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    4. Don't be silly ... no need to apologize! With a milestone birthday looming, it was kind of nice to fantasize for a moment about being 29 again! ;)

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  44. Happy Anniversary to you both! And many more! What a beautiful tribute. A gift to treasure always. Upon reading, I related so well to you in my love for all things vintage. Thank you for sharing with us!

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    1. Thank you so very much, my vintage adoring kindred spirit.

      Have a marvelous weekend,
      ♥ Jessica

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  45. First, congratulations on your wedding anniverssary. And thank you for sharing this touching love letter from your husband. You two look so cute together and I am sure you are perfect for each other. No, Jess, you are not normal, but who wants normal for Gods sake!? Normal is boring and ordinary and that's not who you are and therefore we are many who loves you. I really loved that you are a forties feather hat, so perfect! Give him a hug from me. XOXO from Denmark

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    1. Thank you deeply, my treasured friend. I completely agree. Normal has never sat quite right with me, especially when it comes to how one dresses, and I utterly adore that Tony understands that amount me and loves me for it all the more.

      I will give him a bi hug from you right away. Thank you! Hopefully some day, be it your country or ours, we can meet up and all hang in person. That would be the best!

      Oodles of hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  46. I am speechless… what a beautiful description.
    Tony's won a fan ;)
    Happy anniversary.

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  47. How beautifully and lovingly written. It's obvious Jessica is the love of your life, and that you appreciate all that makes her beautiful and unique.

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    1. Thank you deeply from both of us, dear Marjorie. It is a rare and humbling experience to get to see yourself through the eyes of another person, especially one who "get you" every bit as well as you know yourself. This is the most beautiful thing anyone has ever written to, or about, me and the loveliest anniversary gift imaginable.

      Many hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  48. I'm crying here..how beautiful! Ahhhhh you have the most wonderful husband and I now have even a better picture of the wonderful woman I already know you are.

    Happy Anniversary to you and Tony :)

    Liz

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    1. Thank you so very much, my beautiful friend. That means a great deal to me and I am honoured (and very happy) that you feel that you know me better now.

      Huge hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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      Wishing you a fabulous, fun filled weekend!
      ♥ Jessica

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  50. What a lovely post! I wish my other half was as enthusiastic about my love of vintage, I guess we can't all be so lucky. Happy anniversary to you both. x

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  51. Oh Jessica. I visit your blog on occasion for your lovely, detailed ensembles and bits of Canadiana (Ontario girl, here!). I didn't know I'd come for the romance. I'm so glad you're one of the fortunate few who's found their better half. Ain't love grand? :)

    xo,
    Sar

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    1. Hi Sar, thank you very much for your wonderfully nice comment. It's a pleasure to connect with you here, my fellow vintage adoring canuck. Love is most certainly grand and beautiful, and I will count my lucky stars until my last breath that I was fortunate to have found such a true, amazing love.

      Tons of hugs from BC,
      ♥ Jessica

      *PS* We lived in the GTA for six years (2006 - 2012).

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  52. This is so beautiful! I'd say he's a keeper, Jessica! ;-)

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    1. Most definitely!!! I wouldn't trade him for all the 1940s and 50s garb in the world! :)

      Have an awesome weekend, dear Grace!
      ♥ Jessica

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  53. What a beautiful post. Congratulations, and I wish you both many more joyous years of time travelling together.

    Best Wishes,
    Amanda

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    1. Thank you so very much, dear Amanda. That means all the more to me, as you are one of the long standing readers of my blog and you've been with both Tony and I, online that is, for many years now. I appreciate that - and you - immensely!

      Have a beautiful weekend,
      ♥ Jessica

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  54. That is so beautifully written, happy anniversary to you both. I love the images he captures of you too x

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    1. Thank you sweetly, dear Kayla. I do as well and try never to take the fact that I have a talented photographer for a husband for granted. There's no way my blog would be the same without his tireless work on that front.

      Tons of hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  55. Congratulations on your anniversary, I hope you have many more happy years together. This is such a lovely post and Tony has reiterated all the reasons why we all keep coming back to read your blog, you are a truly lovely person x

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    1. Bless your sweet, kind heart, dear Hayley Ann, that means so much to me.

      Countless thanks & giant hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  56. I love this post! I never really thought about vintage lovers as time travelers but it makes perfect sense. We tend to merge the past and future together creating a "A big ball of wibbly wobbly, timey wimey stuff". This post was not only great, but so sweet too. I hope you had a fabulous wedding anniversary, here's to many more!

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    1. Thank you very much, dear Akram. We are indeed and I think it's a true blessing from the universe to be tapped to have such a profound passion/calling for the past.

      Big hugs & joyful weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  57. This is so sweet! It's wonderful to have someone that "gets" you and understand all of your unique facets. Happy anniversary, and I wish you many more to come!

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    1. It truly is! No one, and I mean absolutely no one, has ever gotten me like Tony does. I believe it is a two-way street on the front and I'm certain that's part of the reason our marriage is not only going strong, but gets better and better with each passing year.

      Thank you very much for your wonderfully lovely comment.

      Have an awesome weekend!
      ♥ Jessica

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  58. Happy anniversary to you both! What an adoring tribute to you, beautifully written xx

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    1. Thank you so very much, my dear friend.

      Wishing you and your DH a beautiful second half of October!

      ♥ Jessica

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  59. My fella says there's nothing more important than understanding. When people try to correct him by saying love is more important, he methodically explains how being understood, being gotten for one's interests or ambitions is a truer, deeper expression of love. You can love someone wrong for sure. Reads as though Tony not only understands you but loves you right. Happy Anniversary!

    Looking forward to reading more of your posts but I couldn't resist first commenting here. :D

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    1. Your man is wise indeed and both Tony and I agree that understanding and respecting one's partner is paramount to a health, loving, stable relationship.

      I (we) sincerely appreciate your great comment and am delighted to welcome you as a reader here.

      Wishing you and your honey a stellar weekend!
      ♥ Jessica

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  60. What beautiful words and a super sweet post. *sigh* Happy anniversary to you both :)

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    1. Thank you so much, lovely Tanith. It really was a beautiful post, I agree. Tony surprised me with it and I really couldn't think of a more touching or poignantly special anniversary gift.

      Big hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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    1. Thank you very much, my sweet friend. This truly is one of the loveliest things anyone has written to, or about me. It was a surprise from Tony - the endlessly romantic Italian chap that he is - and certainly one of the most beautiful presents I've ever received, too.

      Wishing you a fantastic second half of October,
      ♥ Jessica

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  62. Happy Anniversary. I hope you both had a marvellous day. How lovely to hear Tony's thoughts, he has written a beautiful, emotional piece which I thought was very special and moving.

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    1. Thank you so much, my lovely friend. This is truly the loveliest thing anyone has written about, or for me, and I still get goosebumps each time I reread it. Tony has a poet's soul and I love that he was able to let it shine here on CV.

      Tons of hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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  63. What a beautiful ode to your timeless style and endless sweet spirit dear Jessica! Many happy returns of the day to you both, I hope that each consecutive anniversary finds you both closer and closer together. ❤

    xox,
    bonita of Lavender & Twill

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    1. That is a deeply beautiful wish, sweet Bonita. Giant, heartfelt thanks from both of us.

      Wishing you a marvelous week,
      ♥ Jessica

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  64. Aww, what a very sweet post! A happy belated anniversary to you and Tony. ♥

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    1. Thank you very much, my darling friend. It was awesome to be able to jointly share our special day here with everyone.

      Big hugs & happy weekend wishes,
      ♥ Jessica

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  65. My dear sweet friend who I adore and consider one of my closest of friends, it's now November 16th and I managed to overlook this touching tribute to you from your wonderful husband, Tony. As I read what he had penned for you on your 11th wedding anniversary I couldn't help but tear up a bit and have a genuine little good cry over it. Tony's sentiments mirror my own for you and he describes accurately what a treasure you truly are. Thank you to Tony for this endearing glimpse of love and admiration for our dear Jessica. And thank you, my beautiful friend whom I have so much love for to share with us this touching sentiment. Xx

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    1. Sweet Christy, thank you from the bottom of my heart for your endlessly lovely comment and for sharing with me (us) just how deeply Tony's words spoke to your own soul. No matter how many times I reread them, they still bring tears to mine as well, for there is nothing quite like knowing that someone sees and understands you as clearly and as beautifully as Tony has shown that he does here with me in this sublimely special piece of writing.

      Countless hugs,
      ♥ Jessica

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