tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post496502079782942689..comments2024-03-12T13:57:38.337-07:00Comments on Chronically Vintage: Saturday Snapshots: July 18, 2015Witchcrafted Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comBlogger53125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-42975018814312553482015-08-04T07:42:31.439-07:002015-08-04T07:42:31.439-07:00Thank you deeply, my caring friend, that means a l...Thank you deeply, my caring friend, that means a lot to me. It was a challenging and completely unexpected situation to deal with and I'm glad that a fair bit of time has passed between then and now, as it's aided in quelling the sting of the experience. Penning this post was very cathartic and has further helped me to put it behind me, as as the understanding, kind comments that I received here.<br /><br />Isn't that just a darling photos - it warmed my heart big time, too.<br /><br />Huge hugs,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-64025113157644431472015-08-03T09:29:52.010-07:002015-08-03T09:29:52.010-07:00I'm sorry to hear that your kindness was not m...I'm sorry to hear that your kindness was not met in a kind way. It is not surprising that you were hurt, it was most ungrateful of them. I did enjoy these photos, the three little girls doing needlecrafts are lovely, as is the debutant photo.Kate-Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15664293299445754159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-798622327642713002015-07-23T13:44:37.478-07:002015-07-23T13:44:37.478-07:00What a pity - I am so sorry to hear that you had t...What a pity - I am so sorry to hear that you had to go through this. <br />As you mention, indeed, we will have this happen over and over - and even though we may grow a "thick skin", it will always hurt. <br />I loved that beautiful picture of the girls stitching, I wish I had been taught embroidery by my grandmother.Lorenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16720997862417551402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-7687190162505782942015-07-21T17:18:44.647-07:002015-07-21T17:18:44.647-07:00Hi sweet Sanne, I promise you, I didn't do any...Hi sweet Sanne, I promise you, I didn't do anything negative. I went epicly above and beyond for this person (including spending some of my own money on them in the pursuit of helping them) and they were the one who took issue with it, despite asking (virtually rudely begging, if we're being totally honest) for my help. I don't think that this person is, and I say this from a place of compassion, not judgement, completely mentally balanced, but I wasn't aware of that beforehand, because this situation was actually my first (and I hope last!) experience with them. Fortunately that was several months ago now and I've put it behind me, especially thanks to how cathartic it was to pen this post and channel some of the pent up pain I'd been feeling from this ordeal through my writing. <br /><br />Oh my word, you've never, ever struck me as an ungrateful person. Not in the slightest! Quite the opposite actually. I've honestly stopped and thought before what a kind, thankful person you are and how refreshing it is that you're that way (compared to many people in general, I mean). Please do not worry there - many, many folks could take a serious lesson from your gratefulness playbook, my dear friend. <br /><br />Tons of hugs,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-55144222629665711042015-07-21T16:56:00.490-07:002015-07-21T16:56:00.490-07:00Oh my word, that is so profoundly true. We need th...Oh my word, that is so profoundly true. We need the equivalent of that saying in English. Thank you for sharing that with me, honey. It's important to be reminded that these kinds of situations are (sadly) universal.<br /><br />Thank you for your caring, thoughtful comments and understanding. You're truly a sweet, dear friend who always knows just what to say. <br /><br />Huge hugs,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-87119525596145631272015-07-21T16:34:03.209-07:002015-07-21T16:34:03.209-07:00That is extremely cool about your town still have ...That is extremely cool about your town still have debutante balls! Wow! I can't say beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are completely gone here in Canada, but I've not personally heard of any being held in over 40s years now. It's lovely that your sister "came out" and got to experience this classic right of passage into adulthood. <br /><br />You have never struck me as an ungrateful person, sweet dear. Further, there's a huge difference between perhaps not saying thank you sometimes, when such is called for, and being wildly ungrateful to the point of attacking someone for helping you (when you asked for their help), as this person did to me. Honestly though, I think that you've a very lovely, thankful person and have never thought anything else on that front about you, Natalie dear. Thank you in turn for your beautiful thanks. They mean a great deal to me.<br /><br />Tons of hugs & joyful wishes for this week,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-83382518879260939202015-07-21T16:11:00.117-07:002015-07-21T16:11:00.117-07:00Hi sweet Vanessa, thank you very much for your car...Hi sweet Vanessa, thank you very much for your caring, understanding, lovely comment. I'm sincerely sorry that you've encountered your fair of these kinds of hard hitting experiences as well. You're such a friendly, fantastic person - it pains me to think of anyone not treating you with the gratitude, respect and kindness that you deserve. <br /><br />Precisely! I would never want to see the world become a place devoid of genuine caring and kindness either. Surely, we as a species would seal our fate if that were to ever happen. <br /><br />This experience has not hardened me - there are elements of my soul and personality that nothing could ever strip from me, and caring about others and trying to help those in need is definitely one of them - though it was a painful and powerful reminder of the fact that there, sadly, some very uncaring people in this ol' world of ours.<br /><br />Here's to the hope that neither of us to deal with many others as our lives continue onward and that we always have the strength to deal with, and rise above, those that we do encounter. <br /><br />Huge hugs,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-89267307121630131792015-07-21T15:48:52.552-07:002015-07-21T15:48:52.552-07:00Thank you deeply, sweet Bonita. That is such a tre...Thank you deeply, sweet Bonita. That is such a tremendously kind, touching comment to receive. I think that you are extremely nice, sweet, caring, fantastic person as well and love that web led us to meet and be a part of one another's lives, even though we live on totally different sides of the world. <br /><br />Giant hugs,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-60198909714489380832015-07-21T15:46:37.356-07:002015-07-21T15:46:37.356-07:00Hi sweet Amanda, thank you very much for your cari...Hi sweet Amanda, thank you very much for your caring, thoughtful comment and for sending along that NPR interview. I will set aside some quiet, relaxing time this week to listen to it. <br /><br />Many hugs & happy Tuesday wishes,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-3535336305269584632015-07-21T15:45:00.196-07:002015-07-21T15:45:00.196-07:00Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sweet CiCi....Thank you from the bottom of my heart, sweet CiCi. You are an incredibly kind, understanding, thoughtful, polite, caring, awesome person, too, and I would feel equally sorry if I found out that you'd been in the same kind of situation (which I truly hope that you never are). <br /><br />Giant hugs,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-30338969317717821822015-07-21T14:12:19.159-07:002015-07-21T14:12:19.159-07:00Sweet Debs, I am wholeheartedly sorry that you exp...Sweet Debs, I am wholeheartedly sorry that you experienced a similar truly painful situation where someone blindsided you with their viciousness and ungratefulness. I hope with all my might that you never experience anything like that again. <br /><br />Gentle hugs & the utmost of understanding,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-91359909357576001692015-07-21T08:41:39.054-07:002015-07-21T08:41:39.054-07:00I really wonder what on earth you, of all polite a...I really wonder what on earth you, of all polite and thoughtful people, could have done??? I cannot imagine anything. They must be deep felt rude or have completely misunderstood you, which I don't think is possible. You are always very clear. And you are so right about showing your gratefulness when you receive something, even if it is just to somebody who holds the door for you. I am often afraid I don't show my gratefulness well enough, so I might call later to thank again and tell how happy I am for a gift or time spend together with those I love. Most people are so good at complaining, we should really practise telling what we love too. Loved the photos, I always find non-Hollywood photos very interesting. Chin up, dear, you're doing so great. :)SANNEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12973437247117000140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-49701056968224108892015-07-21T04:52:07.718-07:002015-07-21T04:52:07.718-07:00Lovely Pictures! My little town still has debutant...Lovely Pictures! My little town still has debutante balls which are very popular. I didn't have a debut, but my sister did and it does draw a bit of a crowd. <br /><br />I sometimes worry that I can be one of those people that doesn't come off as being grateful. I have to tell myself to make an effort and to say thank you because it's not the first thing I think do. I think that is part of me being shy, that if I have any sort of interraction with other humans I am kind of bewildered by that and forget all about the manners I was taught. So I would like to take this moment to make sure that you know how grateful I am for your support of my blog and for your friendship. You truly are a gem. <br /><br />It is unfortunate that you had to encounter someone who was so rude to you when you were trying to help them. Unfortunately we all come across people who are completely oblivious to the feelings of anyone else. Natalie_vintage_girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16089063496465996399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-71067940921945434112015-07-21T03:36:15.387-07:002015-07-21T03:36:15.387-07:00I had to cut my comment in two silly iPad. As for...I had to cut my comment in two silly iPad. As for that rude person you are very wise to move on and pity them. I've had similar experienced with one or two co workers and I've come to pity them <br />Retro rover tubby3pughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315017048832512111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-54500940013661563322015-07-21T03:35:06.743-07:002015-07-21T03:35:06.743-07:00I love that orange suit and the wall paper in the ...I love that orange suit and the wall paper in the photo of the ladies. tubby3pughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01315017048832512111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-83739531152238308842015-07-21T03:29:15.252-07:002015-07-21T03:29:15.252-07:00This beautiful quote was quite stirring, as was yo...This beautiful quote was quite stirring, as was your experience of ungratefulness. I can definitely relate to the feelings that you described in this post. I like to think that I'm a generous person and I try to do my best to assist and serve those around me when I can. And like you, I know what it's like to have your efforts thrown back into your face with unkind words and rudeness. <br /><br />Each time an experience of this kind has shaken me, I've thought to myself "I don't know why I bother sometimes". But the truth is, the reason that I bother is because I don't want to live in a world where people don't try to help others or cheer the spirits of those who need it. I firmly believe in "being the change you want to see in the world". The quote that accompanied your carefully-chosen words, as well as your words themselves, served to remind me that you can't blame yourself for the ungrateful response of another. The only thing that would be your fault is if you didn't try to help out in the first place, and I can tell that you aren't the kind of person who could simply pass by someone in pain if there was something you could do to assist them. I hope that you and I and others like us never harden to the point that we don't want to reach out to others for fear of being rebuked.Vanessahttp://www.nessbow.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-10301331157088672862015-07-20T23:05:34.655-07:002015-07-20T23:05:34.655-07:00Sweet Jess,
I'll firstly address the "hel...Sweet Jess,<br />I'll firstly address the "helping hand" issue. It's happening worldwide, rest assured - it is not only located in your surrounding. We have all had such sad situations (I can't call it in any other way), so much that my people like saying: you can help a man one thousand times, and you'll never get a "thank you", but you fail to give a helping hand only once, and you'll surely get a cuss in the face.<br />Sadly, I have to say: been there, had that. <br />My freshest "moment" was when I gave my all to help a man get some governmental donation - and he came back to my office, annoyed and drunk, yelling at me - because "it is not enough"<br />..<br />Onto images:<br />My favorite: the time when kids were being kids. <br /><br />..<br />I know you suffer, clearly you do (I would, and I do - every time). Tough as you may get, a situation like the one you've described will always leave a mark.. I actually accept that.. for, as long as I hurt, I'm human. <br /><br />MarijaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04034764185511908294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-28495701594796203122015-07-20T21:16:57.370-07:002015-07-20T21:16:57.370-07:00Oh and my favourite photo is the first one of the ...Oh and my favourite photo is the first one of the girls at Toowong - only because I know where that is ;)Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567813155701854683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-59091296197538202082015-07-20T16:58:24.658-07:002015-07-20T16:58:24.658-07:00I, for one, am always thankful for your sweet, gen...I, for one, am always thankful for your sweet, generous, and giving spirit dear Jessica. I'm so truly sorry that you where on the receiving end of such a horrible experience. I am glad though that you are able to see beyond that person's attitude. Sometimes it's hard to not to let those experiences jade you, I know what that's like, but you have to not let your own behavior and attitudes be determined by others ~ that's what really lets them have the power over you. You are a fabulous example of this, showing us how to rise above, and keep doing what you know is right. Hugs! ❤<br /><br />xox,<br />bonita of <a href="http://www.lavenderandtwill.com/" rel="nofollow">Lavender & Twill</a>Lavender and Twillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06331125027969557539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-5907313277485165142015-07-20T11:39:53.637-07:002015-07-20T11:39:53.637-07:00Oh, goodness. Well, Jessica, you have an excellent...Oh, goodness. Well, Jessica, you have an excellent attitude. And I thought you might be interested in this episode of the NPR show Invisibilia. There's a segment about a woman who literally physically feels other people's emotions. It was fascinating and it sounds like you might be able to relate. (to some degree, at least...for her it impacted her life in some really big ways.) <br /><br />http://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/382451600/entanglement?showDate=2015-01-30Amandanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-74008090135157728192015-07-19T23:00:46.053-07:002015-07-19T23:00:46.053-07:00I can't believe anyone would treat you that wa...I can't believe anyone would treat you that way - you're easily one of the kindest people I know. It genuinely makes me feel angry. The fact you could feel pity for someone who was that horrible to you is testament to the fact you're x100 the person they clearly are. At least you know there are tonnes of people out there who do appreciate everything you do for them (and I count myself in that number!) and wouldn't dream of treating you that way xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06025321570347909818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-81833959201117491512015-07-19T20:30:00.367-07:002015-07-19T20:30:00.367-07:00Jessica I am so sorry that you experienced the wor...Jessica I am so sorry that you experienced the worst of human nature recently. I understand the feeling and I think that you are a much bigger person than I. I stopped caring for people in general for a long time when a similar thing happened to me nearly 10 years ago. I have since learned the lesson you so eloquently described above and forgave and moved on. But even now I am wary. You are so right - there will be people like that out there long after you and I leave the planet and it's unreasonable to think we won't encounter any more unpleasant people. Next time that happens to me I will remember this post and your wise words - and your kind heart. God bless you Jessica and never stop being you.<br />Debs xxxDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02567813155701854683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-50292456483618702312015-07-19T18:07:36.202-07:002015-07-19T18:07:36.202-07:00Sweet Janey, it pains me terribly to hear that you...Sweet Janey, it pains me terribly to hear that you've been going through such a challenging time and grappling with some serious emotional repercussions from it. You are a tremendously nice, caring, lovely person and I can scarcely fathom anyone having the audacity to betray you. With all my heart, I hope that peace will return to your heart and soul soon. As always, I am here for you if you need someone to talk to about absolutely anything.<br /><br />Gentle hugs & the utmost of understanding,<br />♥ Jessica Witchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-15338374706790468442015-07-19T18:05:00.702-07:002015-07-19T18:05:00.702-07:00Thank you sweetly, honey. I don't dwell on thi...Thank you sweetly, honey. I don't dwell on this experience any longer (well, other than to think about it for the purpose of this post), but there will always be a twinge of deeply rooted pain when I do reflect on it. Oh well! It wasn't the first time I was hurt and it won't be the last, but thankfully, as we age, it often gets easier to handle being so insensitively treated - or at least (easier) to understand why some people are the way that they unfortunately are.<br /><br />Many hugs & happy wishes for the new week,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3423410690702297063.post-63266759116486824642015-07-19T18:02:34.551-07:002015-07-19T18:02:34.551-07:00Really and truly, it was and you know, for all our...Really and truly, it was and you know, for all our skilled vintage dressers today and even in the world of Hollywood costuming, one can never 100% replicate the everyday fashion world of the past, because there were so many influences and factors at work that are gone, or at least no longer the same, as today. That was a generation, like many before it, that was raised with certain sartorial knowledge, various beauty skills, and who got to buy everything we now call vintage in the very moment itself. That can be emulated, by baring a time machine never completely replicated and that's okay - so much of the beauty and allure of vintage lies in the fact part of it will always be out of reach because time only marches forward, not back. <br /><br />Wishing you a terrific week ahead, my dear,<br />♥ JessicaWitchcrafted Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992822472797191121noreply@blogger.com